Dirty chat is where most good nights on LocalShags start. A cheeky message, a reply that's a little cheekier, and before long you're both typing things you'd never say out loud in a pub. The difference between this and any other adult chat is the ending. These are local women, and the whole point of the conversation is that it can turn into a meet. Talk tonight, see each other at the weekend, or sooner if the chat gets you both there.
Group Chat, Private Chat And When To Switch
There are two ways in. The group chat is the lively one: a room full of members flirting, joking and sizing each other up. It's perfect for getting a feel for who's around and who's in the mood, and a good one-liner in the group chat can get you noticed faster than any profile.
Private chat is where things get personal. Once you and someone have hit it off, take it one to one. That's where dirty chat turns properly filthy, where you share photos if you both want to, and where plans get made. The best rule of thumb: be fun in public, be daring in private.
How A Dirty Chat Actually Goes
It might start with something as innocent as this. You: "Your profile says you're a terrible influence. Prove it." Her: "Depends. What are you doing Thursday?"
An hour later she's telling you what she's wearing, and it isn't much. You're telling her exactly what you'd do if you were there, slowly, and she's telling you which parts she liked best. Somewhere around midnight she types "Right. I need to sleep. But you're buying me a drink on Thursday and we're not staying for a second one."
That's the whole art of it. Playful, then hot, then a plan. Nobody performed, nobody pushed, and Thursday can't come quickly enough for either of you.
Shag Chat That Goes Somewhere
Plenty of sites will give you sex chat or dirty chat with no hope of ever meeting. That can be fun, but it's not why you're here. Shag chat on LocalShags has a direction. You're talking to a real woman who lives near you, and you both know where a good conversation could lead.
That changes how you chat. You don't need to perform for a crowd of strangers; you need to make one person excited about meeting you. Ask what she likes. Tell her what you'd do about it. Let the tension build over an evening or a few days. Then suggest a drink.
Adult Chat Etiquette For Men Who Want Replies
- Open with something specific. A line about her profile beats "hey gorgeous" every time.
- Flirt chat first, filth second. Let it build. Jumping straight to explicit is the fastest way to be ignored.
- Match her pace. If she's quick and cheeky, keep up. If she takes her time, so can you.
- Photos when invited. Trading pictures is part of it once you've both agreed. Pictures nobody asked for are the quickest way to end a conversation.
Sex talk done well is a skill, and like any skill, it gets better with practice.
Dirty Chat Ideas When You're Stuck
Not sure what to say? Try one of these:
- Ask what her perfect lazy Sunday morning looks like, then make it less innocent.
- Tell her the detail in her profile that made you message, and be honest about why.
- Play "would you rather" and let the options get steadily filthier.
- Ask what she'd want you to do if you met tonight, and promise nothing you won't deliver.
A good naughty chat is half teasing, half listening. The meet takes care of itself.
When The Chat Goes Quiet
Every conversation has a lull. She's busy, she's at work, she's asleep. Don't panic and don't send four messages in a row. A single, light follow-up the next day ("Still thinking about what you said last night") does far more than a string of question marks.
If the chat's gone flat rather than quiet, change the subject. Ask her something unexpected. Share something about yourself that's a bit cheeky. Or be honest: "I've enjoyed this. Fancy a drink this week so we can carry on in person?" The worst she can say is no, and plenty will say yes because you were the one who asked.
From Chat To Meeting
When you've reached the point where you're both checking your phones every few minutes, it's time. Suggest a day and a place within a message or two, keep it local and give her an easy way to say yes. The dirty chat has done its job; let the meet do the rest.
For the bigger picture, read up on what dirty dating looks like or why shag dating saves everybody time. Or head back to the LocalShags homepage, join, and start the conversation you'll be finishing on Thursday.